Vietnamese ladies and their

Guestposter822 · 2019-09-30T05:35:25+02:00

Explore the complexities of relationships in Vietnam as users share experiences with 'dead' husbands and cultural insights on divorce and ownership.

Vietnamese ladies and their "dead" husbands...

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Guestposter822Guest30 September 2019 03:35:25

After asking me for a coffee and upon querying a Vietnamese lady told me that her husband was dead. A few days later though I received a nasty email from her so called husband saying he was going to get his crazy on if I continued to go out with his wife. I didn't want to find out what this actually meant so that was the end of a very fleeting relationship.

Anyway I'm starting to get the impression that when it comes to a spouse dead in Vietnam can sometimes mean divorced and the husbands can well and truly be alive and in their minds still claim ownership over their ex wives (especially if their is a continuing financial benefit).

Can anyone verify this or have had a similar experience ? thanks

dbrutter Active member

Member since 23 September 2016

dbrutterActive member30 September 2019 03:53:15

My wife's late husband really is dead. I've been to his gravesite with her and his daughter and they have an altar set up for him in the house.聽 He died on his motorbike 10 years before we met and left her with a young daughter... so not all of the 'dead husbands' are scams. I'm sorry yours was.

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Guestposter822Guest30 September 2019 03:57:48

dbrutter wrote:
My wife's late husband really is dead. I've been to his gravesite with her and his daughter and they have an altar set up for him in the house.聽 He died on his motorbike 10 years before we met and left her with a young daughter... so not all of the 'dead husbands' are scams. I'm sorry yours was.

its wasn't a scam as the lady was genuine, it was just her interpretation of divorce (ie he's dead to me !)...

WillyBaldy Serial expat

Member since 26 August 2013

WillyBaldySerial expat30 September 2019 06:17:56

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So the moral of the story is, if a lady ever tells you her husband is dead, ask her to bring you to his grave.聽

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Guestposter822Guest30 September 2019 06:54:59

panda7 wrote:
dbrutter wrote:
My wife's late husband really is dead. I've been to his gravesite with her and his daughter and they have an altar set up for him in the house.聽 He died on his motorbike 10 years before we met and left her with a young daughter... so not all of the 'dead husbands' are scams. I'm sorry yours was.

its wasn't a scam as the lady was genuine, it was just her interpretation of divorce (ie he's dead to me !)...

I struggle with...how did he know you were seeing her, she must have told him and gave him your number.
Sounds like a woman to stay away from.

Ciambella ViP

Member since 19 April 2017

CiambellaViP30 September 2019 08:25:58

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Personally, I've never heard a Vietnamese woman describing her estranged husband as dead.聽 Many adjectives are used, but never "dead".

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Guestposter822Guest30 September 2019 08:43:12

Ciambella wrote:
Personally, I've never heard a Vietnamese woman describing her estranged husband as dead.聽 Many adjectives are used, but never "dead".

I think it鈥檚 something they say to men they are interested in...and instead of saying they鈥檙e divorced they just say hubby is dead !

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Guestposter822Guest30 September 2019 09:01:14

Ciambella wrote:
Personally, I've never heard a Vietnamese woman describing her estranged husband as dead.聽 Many adjectives are used, but never "dead".

I dated a girl in Saigon, she asked me to go with her to her home town. Once we got there she asked if I wanted to go and see her husband, I said not really. She then told me it's okay, he is dead. She wanted to go put flowers on his grave with me in tow.

Contem talk Serial expat

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Contem talkSerial expat30 September 2019 09:40:55

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colinoscapee wrote:
Ciambella wrote:
Personally, I've never heard a Vietnamese woman describing her estranged husband as dead.聽 Many adjectives are used, but never "dead".

I dated a girl in Saigon, she asked me to go with her to her home town. Once we got there she asked if I wanted to go and see her husband, I said not really. She then told me it's okay, he is dead. She wanted to go put flowers on his grave with me in tow.

That sounds a bit scared.

vndreamer Serial expat

Member since 22 October 2014

vndreamerSerial expat02 October 2019 16:55:15

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One way to avoid dead husbands is to be selfish like me, date only single women that are not widows, divorced and even if never married, no children.聽 I know, easier said than done, but can be done.聽 I got lucky, I know.