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Hi azumi25188!

Hope that you'll soon find a solution to this issue.

I wish you good luck,
Harmonie.

use google translator  lolz

With what language is he studying in Malaysia if he can't speak English then??

Anyway it's easier to learn English here, many language center around, just ask him to register in one of them..

One more thing, do your friends and family speak that perfect English that you will be ashamed of your Future BF not being able to communicate with them ?????

Good Luck anyway

Expose him out... despite going to English classes, encourage him to expose himself out with some of his M'sian college mate, other expats... reading newspapers or browsing some articles might help..

Kingali2308 : Google translator will help you more i guess rather than azumi25188's partner..=P

kingali2308 wrote:

use google translator  lolz

Don't use Google translator.  It's terrible. If you don't believe me ask the Malaysian Ministry of Defense.  They have egg all over their faces for using it, instead of checking with someone who spoke the language well.

You may not be an English teacher, but I am...and your best bet is for him to enroll in an English class, or be patient and keep working with him on improving his language use with you.

I have lived in countries that I, initially, did not speak the local language but my lady at the time (who could not speak English) would patiently help me understand to the point I could begin to add to the language on my own.

1. Patience
2. If your friends are going to look down on him because his English is poor means you have very shallow friends or you are overly concerned about the wrong things in a relationship.

If I was him I would feel bad about what you said, as well...and you would never see me again.

MisterStretch wrote:

kingali2308 wrote:

use google translator  lolz

Don't use Google translator.  It's terrible. If you don't believe me ask the Malaysian Ministry of Defense.  They have egg all over their faces for using it, instead of checking with someone who spoke the language well.

You may not be an English teacher, but I am...and your best bet is for him to enroll in an English class, or be patient and keep working with him on improving his language use with you.

I have lived in countries that I, initially, did not speak the local language but my lady at the time (who could not speak English) would patiently help me understand to the point I could begin to add to the language on my own.

1. Patience
2. If your friends are going to look down on him because his English is poor means you have very shallow friends or you are overly concerned about the wrong things in a relationship.
If I was him I would feel bad about what you said, as well...and you would never see me again.

WEll said..

zzchan wrote:

With what language is he studying in Malaysia if he can't speak English then??

One more thing, do your friends and family speak that perfect English that you will be ashamed of your Future BF not being able to communicate with them ?????

I believe his university teaches subjects in English.

Just some of my friends might comment and say bad things like why I chose him.

kingali2308 wrote:

use google translator  lolz

I had terrible experience with this lame translator.

both of u should take classes for using google translator  instead of english.  over & out

Maybe u guys can both take up malay since ur in msia. That would be fun! I know of an indonesian who met this jap lady he liked in lingo school in china..now they're married and converse in chinese it's funky but that's the world we live in today!

zzchan wrote:

With what language is he studying in Malaysia if he can't speak English then??

Anyway it's easier to learn English here, many language center around, just ask him to register in one of them..

One more thing, do your friends and family speak that perfect English that you will be ashamed of your Future BF not being able to communicate with them ?????

Good Luck anyway

I don't follow your logic most students in KL studying in English can hardly speak English ! Although much better than the local government uni students who can't speak more than 3 words in English (and believe me it's endemic)

Remember foreign students = fees so why be fussy (!)

As for international relationships they usually go foreign boy meets Asian girl. Asian girl thinks of love and marriage. Foreign boy thinks of fun and sex. Foreign boy leaves making promises. Asian girl is left waiting and waiting and waiting and waiting .....  Foreign boy in meanwhile is either western and already with another girl or he is  from a traditional background and married someone chosen by his parents (happened to female friends of mine here a lot here).

With a language barrier I would suggest just treat it as a bit if fun and not serious and if it carries on after either of you have left KL or he produces a large diamond ring THEN get serious. I do know of course that in Asia women are far more worried about being left on the shelf at 30 (is old and umarriable in Asian eyes lol) so you need to consider that as well.

Other serious issues are if you marry where do you live. Problems with being away from family, culture, religion, work and work permits (that destroys many Malaysian marriages to foreigners as foreign spouse is left unemployed)

Been and done all that but actually divorced my ex Malaysian wife as I realized she was crazy (basically nothing cultural) so you have all those extra issues AND normal stresses of marriage and reasons to divorce! A friend - a catholic American married a Fillipono Catholic and that minimized religious cultural stress as at least same background in some ways. But still big issues over visas and where to live! He had to give up lucrative jobs due to the difficulty of getting a spouse permitf for a fillipino in many countries, and wher they could live she didn't lime as no other Fillipinos to make friends with. Being alone puts stress on marriage tenfold

Take it easy Azumi no need to get rush with things like this ya...

I don't need to worry how to help him improve his English since we broke up yesterday. The reason was his family specially his Father did not agree with our relationship. It's because of cultural differences. Now, I'm crying. It was whirlwind romance, indeed short lived but it left me so much pain. We did not have sex and that's a good thing. I'm no loser at all.

I'm sorry to hear that but let's believe it's for the best. In time you'll find your soulmate, and hopefully it won't be rocky from the start. I don't know what religion or beliefs you hold on to, but just to share, today's sermon at my church touched on wholeness and relationships. You don't need to force yourself to adapt into a relationship within a matter of days nor make the other party happy, just because. It makes more sense to love and accept yourself for who you are first before finding your other half and committing to him (I personally believe in having a fun roller coaster ride of life and he who comes along should be prepared for it and adapt, or tatah baby!). The pastor mentioned that the first thing to adopt in a new relationship is love (yes, one that's sacred and pure and the whole works) -- not lust (which will then act like a chain after the initial attraction and sparks have died down), followed by both families being ok with it and so forth. I hope you'll find joy, sunshine and your soulmate after this brief episode, and I wish you the best for the rest of the year!

sorry to hear....is this ur first expirience in relationship...come on.live must go on...u just need time to forget about it.u will recover soon...believed me.

ok then everything end up with good news..thats good for u.