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Hi
am very sorry about what hapen
Realy am a boy but i dont understand why they do things like this
Hope y'll passe over this , Gd luck

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You dont have to blam your self its not your blem
You semms to be a good person just try to move on and enjoy yr life

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i dont think its a good idea
he dos not wish u this and he semmes dont care about yr hapiness and feling !!
howevere its only an opinion ^^

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ah okey
dont worry that will come a day , he will regret what he did and he will ask why he lose you
hope you will that fastly like he did and i wish u hapiness ^^

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never mind
if you need help or anything else ! feel free to contact me
Have a nice day

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Hi Mylyn
I am sorry to hear that. i know its not easy to face the situation. I was broken many times but after lots of introspection I always kept thinking that it would be better to lose my girl at the time than after we had a stronger relationship like a marriage. i tried to believe that  someone better would come some day. wishing you better days

Hello Mylyn,

First you must understand that when any relationship ends there are two different kinds of separation.

First there is a PHYSICAL SEPARATION where the two people simply go their separate ways and start living their own lives as they did before meeting.

Then there is a MENTAL SEPARATION where each of the people "detaches" themselves emotionally from the other person.

It depends on each individual the order in which these two separations take place.

Your ex-boyfriend obviously made that mental separation before the relationship ended and the physical separation took place. That's why in your eyes it's so easy for him to now have somebody else. He is simply moving on with his life, as he has every right to do. It's exactly what he should do.

You on the other hand clearly have not yet made the mental separation that is necessary for you to move on with your own life. For whatever reason you're stuck in the past probably thinking or wishing that things could be fixed. They can't! So you must find a way to make that mental separation too and move on with your life.

Maybe that is because you haven't really accepted the physical separation, the end of the relationship yet. This is something that you have to do or you will just continue to torture yourself unnecessarily.

It might help you to read my postings in response to Princess Sandra who asked "How do you forget someone?" topic:

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Pay particular attention to reply #4 and #8 which I'm sure will be very helpful to you.

Just remember, the clock doesn't spin backwards, you can't go back and undo what has already been done, you can't "un-make" the mistakes you made in the past. The best you can do is learn from them and not make them in your next relationship. Don't go on blaming yourself, because it serves no useful purpose. It takes 2 to make or break a realationship and your ex also has his share of the blame. Forget it and move on with your life.

Good luck, be happy and just keep on trying.


  Cheers, 
  William James Woodward – Brazil Animator, Expat-blog Team

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When people are in a relationship and for one or another reason one of them is not happy with the relation, he or she will think about it. He or she struggle with the idea and ask by himself why or what cause that problem. And try to find a solution.
Specially in the beginning of this process, they don't want to disturb or anxious the other with their thoughts. If they do the other will overload him/her with questions which he/she maybe not can answer.
If they want to break up they tell the other about their decision. If they want to go on with the relationship, they will tell what the problem is and both can look for a solution.

This is a normal process that happens all the time in every relationship. Your ex boyfriend moved on with his life and I suggest to do also. You can't change it, how hard it is for you now to understand it.
Learn from your mistakes, focus on different things in life, chin up and go!

My mother always said to me: there are more boys then church towers

MYLN

Do not dwell on it. Move on. The more you sit around and think about it the more confused you will become.

Just treat it as one of life's lessons, learn from it and move on.

He broke off the relationship, didn't he? He may not have told you in so many words that "I've decided I don't love you or want you anymore", but it was probably more like, "I think we need some time apart to think about things."

At any rate he did tell you about the mental separation, by breaking off the relationship.

The clock can't be turned back, you have to accept the end of the relationship, forget him and move on. Why in the world do you want to torture yourself with knowing about him now, thinking about him... live YOUR life.

  Cheers, 
  William James Woodward – Brazil Animator, Expat-blog Team

dont care about koz sure, he will regret what he did. Move on and enjoy your life

Remember that you are not the only person on earth who experience such pain, others may had it even worse. Dreams are shattered. Hearts are broken. It's only us who can decide whether to pack our things up and walk away from that pain. It's not worth dwelling on it. Little did we know we only destroy ourselves by not moving on. Life has to keep on rolling, sis. Pray. Live and let live.

MYLYN PEREZ wrote:

in the past two months i thought my ex-boyfriend and i can work things out. I thought we can still fix everything since his last email was telling me that he dont feel alive anymore.. so i told him i still love him. I also keep thinking and asking my self if im the one who messed evrything up, if its because of my jealousy that is why he wanted a break, I even said sorry for all the wrong i've done if ever im the one who ruined evrything. I thought these are just  misuderstanding and can be fix like what other relationship do. But this morning i recieved a phone call from my bestfriend, telling me to dont be shock because my boyfriend or my ex boyfriend is already in a relationship with other girl. Why is it so easy for him to be in a relationship again? why is it so fast? is easy really east for him to changed his feelings and fall in love with other girl?

Hey,
Sorry to hear that, but you know what ? time will heal all the wounds.
Live your life, it's alright to do it in baby steps. You'll get over him eventually. Hang out with your real friends, go to the places that you always dream of and make new friends. 

-Dewi-