Moving to a new country opens the door to fresh experiences—and that includes meeting new people. Dating apps can make it easier to connect, whether you're looking for companionship, a relationship, or just someone to explore the city with. But how can you make sure you're meeting the right person? And how do you stay safe while doing it?
What's normal at home might be different abroad
Living abroad can sometimes make you let your guard down. As a foreigner, you might not be familiar with local social norms—and that can make you an easier target for romance scams. While love may be universal, caution is essential, especially in an unfamiliar environment. Dating customs vary widely from one country to another. Before diving in, take time to understand how romantic relationships usually work in your host country. A bit of cultural awareness can help you avoid misunderstandings—and protect yourself.
Research the online dating scene in your host country
When it comes to online dating, Tinder is often the first app that comes to mind. It's available in many countries—but it's far from the only option out there. Every country has its own preferences when it comes to dating platforms, and some apps that are big locally might not be well-known back home. Take the time to find out which apps are most popular where you live. How do people use them? Are they geared toward casual dating, serious relationships, or just making friends? Be cautious, too. Not all dating sites are legitimate. Avoid platforms that seem overly interested in your personal or financial information. And make sure to stay alert, even on apps with a good reputation.
Beware of website “hijacking”
Did you sign up for a language exchange and suddenly find yourself getting dating offers? It happens more often than you'd think. Some websites end up being used for something entirely different than what they were designed for—like informal dating or even scams.
Foreigners are frequent targets. A scammer might message you offering language lessons—which seems normal at first. You start chatting, and after a while, they suggest meeting up. You feel comfortable, so you agree—without realizing it could be a setup. Even platforms created for friendly, educational exchanges can be hijacked and misused. So stay alert and trust your instincts. Block messages that seem off. Many language-learning platforms even issue warnings to remind users to be cautious.
Every profile could be a scammer in disguise
You don't need to be paranoid—but you do need to stay realistic. The internet is full of opportunities, but it's also a playground for scammers. The truth is, you never really know who's behind a screen. Photos can be edited or stolen. Personal details can be entirely fabricated. And even the most reputable platforms are home to fake profiles. As a foreigner, you're especially vulnerable. Scammers often count on your unfamiliarity with local customs to trick you—whether it's through romance scams, catfishing, or other schemes. No one is immune. Being tech-savvy doesn't make you scam-proof, and fraudsters are constantly finding new ways to deceive. With the rise of artificial intelligence, these scams are becoming even harder to spot.
Use a separate profile photo for dating apps
It might seem harmless—or just convenient—to use the same profile photo across dating apps, social media, and professional platforms. But that's a risky habit. Reusing your photo makes it much easier for scammers to trace your identity and access personal details about you. Instead, use a dedicated photo just for dating sites. Choose one that doesn't give away too much—avoid backgrounds that show your home, your workplace, or any landmarks that could pinpoint your location. It may sound extreme, but there have been real cases where people were targeted or even attacked after being tracked down through subtle clues in their photos.
Don't share personal details in your profile
No matter how long you plan to stay abroad—six months or several years—it's smart to keep things vague on your dating profile. Use a nickname or just your first name if you're comfortable, but never include your last name. Avoid posting your phone number, home address, or anything that could make it easy for someone to track you down. And be especially careful not to highlight that you're a foreigner. Details like that can make you a target for manipulation or scams.
Adjust your social media privacy settings
Check the privacy settings on each of your apps and make sure they're properly configured. Be cautious with geolocation features. While they can help you find a lost phone or let friends know where you are, scammers can use them too. Avoid letting your apps connect with each other. No one needs to know which café you just visited. And don't link your accounts—like Instagram, Tinder, or Facebook. Many people do this to enhance their profile, but cross-linking can expose personal information, even if each platform seems secure on its own.
Stay within the dating app's messaging system
If your match asks to exchange phone numbers for “direct communication,” don't agree. Most dating platforms recommend keeping conversations within their own messaging systems, which are generally more secure. This is especially important when you're abroad. Do not share your phone number.
Don't overshare
Who hasn't said too much during an early conversation? Expats tend to let their guard down and end up sharing their life story with a complete stranger. They usually have a lot to talk about, and the romantic setting makes oversharing even easier. Dating apps can feel like safe, intimate spaces where everyone is looking for love—but the reality is different. Some expats include far too much personal information in their profiles, making it easy for someone to take advantage. If a potential partner seems “perfect” for you, don't be surprised—they may have simply read everything you posted.
Avoid posting too many photos
In the same vein, limit how many photos you share. Posting too many can end up creating a visual biography. What seems like an innocent image to you could be used against you. Avoid sharing photos of all your travels. Don't try to document your life journey through pictures. No one needs to know exactly where you've been.
Be wary of certain invitations
If your match suggests a surprise date and refuses to share the location—saying they just want to help you explore the city—walk away. Some locals are genuinely kind and eager to show you around, but the internet is a public space, not a private diary. Conversations on dating apps are never completely private. Stay cautious. Always ask for the exact location of a date. The surprises can come later, once trust is established. Decline shady requests, like downloading an app, clicking a link, or accepting unsolicited photos. These could contain viruses.
First meeting? Choose a public, familiar place
Always plan your first in-person date in a public place you already know. Don't play the role of the “newcomer who doesn't know the city.” Act like a local. Show that you're in control. Don't agree to go somewhere unfamiliar just because the conversation is going well. Avoid nighttime meetups. Don't let your date find out your route home. Let friends know where you're going—and consider making it a group outing.
Intimacy: Consent and protection are non-negotiable
Never agree to anything intimate without giving clear, explicit consent. Female expats, in particular, should be especially cautious. If you have even the slightest doubt, leave the date. Let your friends know what's going on. If you feel unsafe, go to a secure place and wait for your friends to join you. These safety tips apply even on a first date. You always have the right to end the evening if something doesn't feel right.
Extra tips for safer online dating abroad
Don't sign up for a dating app impulsively. Avoid doing so when you're feeling lonely, sad, or emotionally low. It's natural to seek comfort during tough times—but vulnerability can make you less cautious. Wait until you feel more confident before diving in. Don't isolate yourself. Stay connected with friends, and don't hesitate to ask for their advice.Regularly clean up your computer and phone. Delete any apps you're no longer using—especially if you think you've found someone. It's a simple step that helps protect both your privacy and your partner's.
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